I write this knowing that I am with the minority; and the majority won’t be able to relate. People will probably read this, roll their eyes, and continue to state that those featured in magazine centerfolds and on covers are emaciated, anorexic, poor role models, and abnormally thin. These comments, although applicable in situations where one fights against nature to have their pelvic bones protrude by self-starvation, are just as hurtful though, to those of us who are very real, slender women. We are born this way. The genetic make-up for the skinny girl does exist.
When you tell us to “Go eat something”, or make remarks behind our backs stating that we must starve ourselves, or that we are portraying an unattainable version of beauty – it stings. There is nothing unattainable about us. You are on one hand telling the masses to embrace beauty and to love yourselves; but you are also being exclusionary to us. Are you saying that since there is less of us per pound that we should love ourselves less?
The skinny girl – and we’re not talking about the cocktails – is many times discriminated against. Society acknowledges those who are overweight, but needing to lose weight seems to be the norm. We skinny girls, are not the norm. We don’t fit in. And, as the realistic embodiment of many of the fashion figures on magazine covers, are are made to feel bad for being our slightly underweight selves.
There is nothing physically wrong with us; no medical problem. Being thin is no more a medical issue than being a few pounds plump.
We are made fun of for not being able to chime in about needing to lose weight or doing the juice cleanse of the week. When we do put on a few pounds and want to get back into some old jeans, others belittle us saying that we don’t need to lose weight. We are the outcasts who have higher metabolisms than others, a blessing we fully appreciate, but many continue to view us as emaciated. We can eat and eat, and it can be hard to put on weight sometimes; but we shouldn’t be made to feel bad about that.
While women are embracing their curves, many times we are envious of their voluptuousness. We aren’t anorexic. We eat cookies and burgers and don’t live off of liquids. We like looking at models who are on the thinner side because we can relate – someone else out there has a body type just like us. We do exist. We are the skinny girls. We are not a figment of photoshopped imaginations. We aren’t starving ourselves trying to look ridiculously stick figure-like. We take care of our bodies. We eat right, (and sometimes not so right, indulging in sweets and savory creations). We do get upset when society says they’re sick of svelte models in magazines who portray an unrealistic and perhaps idealistic and unattainable image of what women should look like. Why? Because we are real people. We just can’t tip the scales. We shouldn’t be chastised for our genetics.
We grew up being called “twiggy”, “stick figure”, “lanky”, “surfboard”, and endured just as many rounds of teasing as those who were mocked for being chubby. Somehow, the name calling was overlooked in our world. Those who were plumply challenged or curve endowed began to fit in with society as our bodies matured. Women started to embrace their curves, and look down upon anyone who didn’t overflow their cup sizes or still shopped in the juniors departments as adults. Is it jealousy? Is it a case of desiring what one doesn’t look like? Instead of calling us names to our faces as adults, the skinny girls are given dirty looks if they order dessert or are talked about behind theirbacks. It’s the grown-up version of teasing.
Many times I admire the curvaceous women who have that perfect hourglass shape – but I don’t cat call them or make them feel flawed for flaunting their beautiful bodies. If society is genuine about role model representation, then it goes both ways, or should I say “weighs”. Instead of women deciding where they fit in on the scale, maybe it’s time to truly show love in terms of all “figures”.
I am thin, and I love my very real self.
Thanks for the support and love 🙂 Your REglam Team xx